Being an Adult, or: Life is Not a Song

Willow: “I don’t know. You’ve been studying … really a lot.”
Buffy: “I’m trying. But they’re really piling on the reading, and Giles fills any free time I have with extra training … I’m starting to think this working hard is hard work.”
Willow: “Isn’t it crazy like that?”
Buffy: “I thought it was gonna be like in the movies. You know, inspirational music … a montage, me sharpening my pencils, me reading, writing, falling asleep on a big pile of books with my glasses all crooked, ‘cause in my montage I have glasses.” [Willow nods] “But real life is slow, and it’s starting to hurt my occipital lobe.”
Buffy – The Vampire Slayer

In this video …

Frozen – A Musical feat. Disney Princesses

a couple of Disney Princesses come to the “conclusion” that they “don’t need a man”. One the one hand I agree. Who wants to have a needy spoiled princess? Who can’t stand on her own? I rather have an adult as partner. Harder to find, but well worth the search.

But I wonder — once outside that nice little floor, when the music has faded away, what would these Disney Princesses do? Singing “can do” is different than “doing it”. That takes skill and determination, not just … questionable vocal ability. Or varying degrees of stereotypical beauty.

And sure, some princesses were so over-protected that they have no “real” skills. Forcing them into roles where the prince had to deal some amazing feats. BTW, gratitude anyone? At least for some princes? Anyway, even late(r) in life, these princesses can get these skills. Not through singing, but through hard work.

And as life is not a song, real skills do not come via a training montage.

In this sense — yes please. Be self-determined. Follow your own dreams. Go after what makes you happy. Learn to be happy with yourself — on your own. That’s the prerequisite to be happy with others. And to reach a certain kind of happiness that is hard to reach on ones own. And for that you might “need a man”. Or a woman. Or an interesting combination of partners.

But whatever floats your boat, don’t just sing about it, do it.