Realizing “that each random passerby is living a life as vivid and complex as your own”

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n. the realization that each random passerby is living a life as vivid and complex as your own—populated with their own ambitions, friends, routines, worries and inherited craziness—an epic story that continues invisibly around you like an anthill sprawling deep underground, with elaborate passageways to thousands of other lives that you’ll never know existed, in which you might appear only once, as an extra sipping coffee in the background, as a blur of traffic passing on the highway, as a lighted window at dusk.
The Dictionary of Obscure Sorrows

That beautiful definition above — of an often overlooked aspect of life — caught my eye when I first saw it. I wonder — how can you make people realize this basic fact of life?

I don’t know, but perhaps writing down everything that concerns you at the moment, every doubt, every fear, every hope is a way to achieve it (hint: use paper and burn it after writing). Externalizing what you feel at the moment and then realizing that this is how almost every human being on this planet feels. Not the same items, but roughly the same number and many of the same emotions.

At least for a moment it might bring this awareness, before it vanishes in the usual stream of consciousness. That everyday living where other people are only the foils or assistants in our lives.

What do you think?

Categories: Generating Ideas, Improving your Creativity, Inspiration, People, Something to Think About



7 Comments on Realizing “that each random passerby is living a life as vivid and complex as your own”

  1. Margaret Mead // March 28, 2014 at 2:07 pm //

    You are unique. Just like everybody else.

  2. It’s something that everyone knows, we all know that other people exist and have lives, but it’s the complexity of those lives. The sudden…realization, is a way to put it but not quite, that other people get up, think random thoughts, speak to others and feel something that you’ve felt before but at different points in their lives and most of the time in no connection with you. That is what I feel every once in a while when I’m walking down the street. Words cannot accurately describe this feeling of “realization”.

  3. Ethan Bradbarry // July 4, 2017 at 3:50 pm //

    Mind fucked

  4. This sounds like enlightenment. Crazy.

  5. Luke Wiggins // November 8, 2017 at 1:13 am //

    It’s an epiphany of thought; an enlargement of the mind and of one’s awareness. I’ve experienced the epiphany periodically since I was very young, probably around six (I was a weird child. Now I’m a weird adult) and I can honestly say that epiphany feeling stays with me for about 3-4 days, and then it passes out of thought again until the next time. Every time it comes up again, it’s just as extraordinary as the first time I had the realization.

  6. I have this realization almost everyday, I know in my subconscious that everyone has an intricate life just like mine, but whenever I’m left to my thoughts, bored, in a particularly observative mood, or walking alone this is what my mind wanders to. It always hits me like a ton of bricks, this is life, Everyone has one. It’s a very humbling moment.

  7. I’m thinking it’s because we are constantly working on so many things in our own lives, that we don’t zoom out to think about other people’s objectives/wants/complex lives as we walk pass them down busy streets. When we are not so occupied with solving problems of our own – such as when we’re sitting on the beach with nothing to do on an island getaway, or when we retire – that’s when we likely start noticing and thinking about other people’s lives.

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